Asking the real questions

[unbrokenoath]

FORM: Sending crystal
SENDER: Kaisa
RECIPIENT: Everyone
WHAT: Things are tense, Kaisa tries to have a discussion that is Not Tense. Asking what people's safe word is counts, right?
WHEN: End of Drakonis
WHERE: Skyhold
NOTES: CW for discussion of sexual situations, probably with hints at bdsm or at least situations that require a safe word.

Alright, so, I'm bored, and the air has been kind of tense around here lately. So I have a fun survey for anyone who wants to participate. My question is this:

What's your safe word?

For any innocent maidens tuning in: Safe words are words that you say when you're knocking boots with someone and you need all activities to end, right then and there, no questions asked. If you've never been in any situations where you've needed a safe word, think up something that you'd never say during sex, unless you were wanting everything to stop. Go ahead, think on that. Right now. Hup hup. Let me know what you come up with.

I think that it's interesting to see just what people decide on, you know? It says something. Some people just go with something like 'Stop' because, Maker's ass, it's effective, and neither of you are gonna forget that shit any time soon. You don't need to explain your decision-making process but I might ask you if you got something really out there, just saying. Unless you're like 'And don't fucking ask, Kaisa, you nosy motherfucker', in which case I will be like 'Alright man, that's totally cool'.

I'll start out: Mine is 'darkspawn', because I figure if I'm shouting that at any point, I probably want to be ending any current extra-circular activities, anyway. And probably find some pants.

Comments

[ombranera]

I tend to go with 'Talon'. Short, easy to remember, and not something I am about to say on accident.

/threadjack sorry ema

[samahl]

Well, I'm certainly glad I've never heard you say that before.

[samahl]

Freckles.

[unbrokenoath]

What if you're banging someone who has them? And, like, you want to compliment them? Like 'Shit man your freckles are adorable'.

[failedfirst]

Do you truly have nothing better to occupy your time?

[unbrokenoath]

Not really, but if you want to fix that...

[ You can't see the eyebrows waggling, but can you feel them? In your soul? ]

[gatheringstorm]

Usually I have people at least buy me a drink before they get to learn that, Kaisa. But since I'm in a generous mood: 'vitaar'.

[unbrokenoath]

Consider me owing you a drink, Korrin. That's, uh, shit--qunlok, right? Qunari language?

[serannas]

Oh, darkspawn is clever!

[unbrokenoath]

I am pretty smart, thank you.

[ And so modest. ]

[easternseaqueen]

Darkspawn. Not bad.

...mine's Hari.

[unbrokenoath]

Sounds like a name.

[wickedchase]

Plaidweave.

[unbrokenoath]

I can think of a handful of situations where that might come up during sex, but you know, the sex would probably be stopping in those situations, anyway.

...Do they make plaidweave undies, do you think?

[justice_is_blond]

'Templar.'

Also 'mabari.' Or 'Oghren.'

[unbrokenoath]

Three of 'em. Do you rotate them or just shout whichever comes to mind first?

[kallian_endris]

[Well, she's blushing.]

It's... not something that'll ever be necessary in that context, but... "willow" was a code word I once gave someone in case there was... trouble.

[unbrokenoath]

Hey, you never know what can happen. Life is amazing.

if this is a joke it is impossible to tell

[doneisdone]

Love.

[unbrokenoath]

Aw, Teren, you had to go for the jugular, didn't ya?

[el_tybs]

This is certainly something interesting to be asking everyone in Skyhold.

Hm. 'Chantry'

[unbrokenoath]

Do you have any suggestions on how to break it down? A comprehensive list of people who are down with talking about this kinda stuff casually?

...

And don't have sex with Asher, if you ever meet him, 'cause sometimes he gets chantries involved in interesting ways.

[ Not her!!! She is a Good Andrastian. Kinda. ]

[arachnophobe]

Pelotas.

[unbrokenoath]

[ She recognizes that voice, since, you know, that voice has been regularly shrieking over the crystal. But this isn't about drama!!! This is about the simple question of words you wouldn't normally shout during sex, and whatnot. ]

I'll bite. What's that mean?

[wontforgetyou]

Look, why would you want to know about this sort of thing, anyway? Are you really that bored?

[unbrokenoath]

I'm bored enough to ask, you're bored enough to comment here asking me about it. So, really, we appear to be on the same page.

[trouvaille]

Celene.

[unbrokenoath]

...Like the Empress...?

[issala]

...shouldn't 'stop' be good enough?

[unbrokenoath]

One, having your own custom word is all nice and personalized, like naming your weapon. [ That's a horrible analogy. ] Two, some people like to be able to say 'stop' without the sex actually stopping.

But it's still perfectly acceptable and practical, there's nothing wrong with using that, if it works for you.

[keeperofmagi]

[In the most flat, fairly annoyed tone possible:]

Well this entire conversation has been illuminating.

srry for threadjacking

[bunko]

That one is a little long, my friend. You should think of shortening it.

[bunko]

'Darkspawn' seems unwise. For what if you are seeing a darkspawn, and calling a warning? Although I suppose, then, that putting a stop to all activity would then still be a good thing....

[unbrokenoath]

That's exactly what I mean, yeah? If I'm saying 'darkspawn', then I probably don't want to be having sex right then, anyway.

[dragoon_pride]

No one has a right to know such information.

[Well, unless they're in... uh... the position to know it.]

[unbrokenoath]

Then...why did you bother to reply to this.

[ She ain't interrogating people here bub. ]

[qunari]

Tend to go with 'katoh', for most people.

'Darkspawn', huh?

[unbrokenoath]

'Katoh'. That's qunlot, right? I don't imagine most people are chatting in that at you, around here.

But yeah. Feel free to remember that.

[ Wink wink. ]

It also has the bonus of being as obnoxiously Wardenly as possible, which I, personally, have a deep fondness for.

[unharrowed]

I suppose I'll have to think of one.

[Hm.]

'Kirkwall' would do.

[unbrokenoath]

I hope you don't have any plans to go back there any time soon.

[make_my_mark]

As much as I've missed the internet [God, she knows how it was done without, but to hell with how damn slow it is] it's probably fortunate you don't you have it in Thedas.

[unbrokenoath]

Is that something dirty? Tell me.

[ancarrow]

'Witherstalk'. Herbs are easy for me to remember, and it tends to serve as an instruction to the partner, too.

[unbrokenoath]

Effective. If it's being mentioned, the mood probably needs a break, anyway.

[hlif]

Abomination. Always puts a dampener on things.

[unbrokenoath]

Asher, yer a rude ass nughumper, ya know that?

[ She says, with a tone that could possibly be affectionate. ]

[foodsofmypeople]

... remind me never to go on patrol with you.

[unbrokenoath]

What, do you think I'm just going to jump you when we're alone because I like talking about these things? Please, ser, I have some standards.

[fleurdesel]

Depending upon the situation- Tranquil, Templar, Philter, Martel, Dorian, or Warden.

Context is important.

[unbrokenoath]

Those are a lot to keep straight.