Asking the real questions

[unbrokenoath]

FORM: Sending crystal
SENDER: Kaisa
RECIPIENT: Everyone
WHAT: Things are tense, Kaisa tries to have a discussion that is Not Tense. Asking what people's safe word is counts, right?
WHEN: End of Drakonis
WHERE: Skyhold
NOTES: CW for discussion of sexual situations, probably with hints at bdsm or at least situations that require a safe word.

Alright, so, I'm bored, and the air has been kind of tense around here lately. So I have a fun survey for anyone who wants to participate. My question is this:

What's your safe word?

For any innocent maidens tuning in: Safe words are words that you say when you're knocking boots with someone and you need all activities to end, right then and there, no questions asked. If you've never been in any situations where you've needed a safe word, think up something that you'd never say during sex, unless you were wanting everything to stop. Go ahead, think on that. Right now. Hup hup. Let me know what you come up with.

I think that it's interesting to see just what people decide on, you know? It says something. Some people just go with something like 'Stop' because, Maker's ass, it's effective, and neither of you are gonna forget that shit any time soon. You don't need to explain your decision-making process but I might ask you if you got something really out there, just saying. Unless you're like 'And don't fucking ask, Kaisa, you nosy motherfucker', in which case I will be like 'Alright man, that's totally cool'.

I'll start out: Mine is 'darkspawn', because I figure if I'm shouting that at any point, I probably want to be ending any current extra-circular activities, anyway. And probably find some pants.

Comments

[unbrokenoath]

My turn ons are a vital piece of information that should be scattered to all corners of Thedas.

Be sure to include my portrait.

[justice_is_blond]

Not notes on those. It's entirely likely all corners of Thedas already know those.

[unbrokenoath]

I'm working on it. I can give you a detailed breakdown, if you want.

[justice_is_blond]

Let's see. Breathing, able to string a sentence together, has at least one finger, am I missing anything? Oh, and not a Darkspawn.

[unbrokenoath]

...

[ The mood shifts, suddenly, the easy joking tone in Kaisa's voice disappearing. She knows she's not exactly hard to please, but it still stings. ]

...If that's what you think.

[justice_is_blond]

...I meant it as a joke, Kaisa. That's not what I think.

[unbrokenoath]

I--

[ She pauses for a moment, then sighs. ]

--Sorry, I know you're not trying to say anything. But--

[ She makes a small, irritated noise, not at Anders, but just because admitting that anything anyone says about her, her habits, and her choices, bothers her. It gives them power. ]

--Some people do. But it's my choice. It's always my choice.

[justice_is_blond]

Of course it's your choice. And there's nothing wrong with enjoying several choices, or more.

[unbrokenoath]

Sorry for making it weird. I know you wouldn't talk shit.

I probably shouldn't be allowed to say fuckall about it, considering how I've flirted with like. At least half the people responding to this.

[justice_is_blond]

You're allowed to speak up if someone is implying something that isn't true. There's no shame in flirting, and there's no shame in enjoying yourself.