Asking the real questions

[unbrokenoath]

FORM: Sending crystal
SENDER: Kaisa
RECIPIENT: Everyone
WHAT: Things are tense, Kaisa tries to have a discussion that is Not Tense. Asking what people's safe word is counts, right?
WHEN: End of Drakonis
WHERE: Skyhold
NOTES: CW for discussion of sexual situations, probably with hints at bdsm or at least situations that require a safe word.

Alright, so, I'm bored, and the air has been kind of tense around here lately. So I have a fun survey for anyone who wants to participate. My question is this:

What's your safe word?

For any innocent maidens tuning in: Safe words are words that you say when you're knocking boots with someone and you need all activities to end, right then and there, no questions asked. If you've never been in any situations where you've needed a safe word, think up something that you'd never say during sex, unless you were wanting everything to stop. Go ahead, think on that. Right now. Hup hup. Let me know what you come up with.

I think that it's interesting to see just what people decide on, you know? It says something. Some people just go with something like 'Stop' because, Maker's ass, it's effective, and neither of you are gonna forget that shit any time soon. You don't need to explain your decision-making process but I might ask you if you got something really out there, just saying. Unless you're like 'And don't fucking ask, Kaisa, you nosy motherfucker', in which case I will be like 'Alright man, that's totally cool'.

I'll start out: Mine is 'darkspawn', because I figure if I'm shouting that at any point, I probably want to be ending any current extra-circular activities, anyway. And probably find some pants.

Comments

[el_tybs]

... I don't buy it.

Really? Where?

[samahl]

Did the meaning of the word 'no' change while I wasn't looking? Or is this the new thing that we have to use watchwords for?

[el_tybs]

It hasn't changed, but it would depend on how you were using it. Was that a 'No I don't have any' or 'No I don't want to talk about it'?

[Had he actually made Cyril mad? That doesn't sit well with him and honestly makes his stomach sink a bit.]

... I'm sorry. I'll stop asking about it.

[samahl]

[He's not really all that mad. It's just a weird sore spot for him. He sighs a bit.] You don't have the apologize, Sam. If anything, I tease you enough to earn a couple jabs.

[el_tybs]

No, it's still not right to press something you don't feel comfortable about.

I just... I guess there's still a lot I don't know about you and I'm honestly curious to know.

[samahl]

Maybe that's a conversation for in person?

[el_tybs]

Perhaps.

... You just want to see me blush when you say stuff, don't you?

[samahl]

That is a benefit, yes.

[el_tybs]

[Sigh.]

Well then I guess we'll continue this when we meet in person.