The age-old question

[issala]

FORM: Sending Crystal
SENDER: Kas
RECIPIENT: Everyone
WHAT: More questions
WHEN: Today
WHERE: Skyhold
NOTES: Tiny teen qunari muses about not being tiny any more.

So at what age are you really an adult? I mean, not maturely but like... to other people. You say you 'come of age' and stuff like that but exactly what age is that in Ferelden? Here you can't join the army if you're under seventeen, which is fair. Does that mean you're an adult after seventeen?

I heard some rifter saying you can't drink unless you're eighteen or twenty-one or whatever. Rivain doesn't have a rule like that. I had wine when I was a kid, so I don't see the point of restricting it.

...but, like... at what age are you an adult? How old do you gotta be to marry someone without it being weird?

[Pause.]

Not that I'm marrying anyone!

Comments

[blightedson]

I don't think this is something that has a clear answer. It depends on what you feel.

[issala]

You think so?

[blightedson]

Yes. I suppose there are men and women who have married and have children and many of them aren't very 'grown up.' Back home, we call them the Magisterium.

[issala]

[Shit Felix what a self-drag! Pardon the baby qunari, he's laughing.]

Okay, you win.

[blightedson]

[Felix enjoys making people laugh.]

I do try, at least.

My point is that this isn't something to worry about. It happens when it happens and you know when you know. Asking, though, it isn't a sign of immaturity. It shows that you're willing to consider your own readiness.

[issala]

...thanks, that makes me feel a little better. It felt weird to ask.

I just... wonder, sometimes. No matter how adult I feel, I'm pretty sure everyone else sees me as a kid because I'm so small.

[blightedson]

People might say the same to elves, but that doesn't stop them from surviving and doing everything they can to thrive in unpleasant circumstances.

Or even the dwarves, who have cities underground and fight off the darkspawn.

[issala]

Well, elves are all small. So are dwarves. I'm a small qunari.

[blightedson]

You might be able to use that to your advantage?

[issala]

It works for scouting but it's shit with social situations.

[blightedson]

Unless you end up being able to hear something that someone might say because they underestimated you.

[issala]

That's... a really good point, actually.

[blightedson]

Sometimes weakness can become our greatest strength? Or... something else that sounds impressive....

[issala]

You're a pretty funny guy.