Asking the real questions

[unbrokenoath]

FORM: Sending crystal
SENDER: Kaisa
RECIPIENT: Everyone
WHAT: Things are tense, Kaisa tries to have a discussion that is Not Tense. Asking what people's safe word is counts, right?
WHEN: End of Drakonis
WHERE: Skyhold
NOTES: CW for discussion of sexual situations, probably with hints at bdsm or at least situations that require a safe word.

Alright, so, I'm bored, and the air has been kind of tense around here lately. So I have a fun survey for anyone who wants to participate. My question is this:

What's your safe word?

For any innocent maidens tuning in: Safe words are words that you say when you're knocking boots with someone and you need all activities to end, right then and there, no questions asked. If you've never been in any situations where you've needed a safe word, think up something that you'd never say during sex, unless you were wanting everything to stop. Go ahead, think on that. Right now. Hup hup. Let me know what you come up with.

I think that it's interesting to see just what people decide on, you know? It says something. Some people just go with something like 'Stop' because, Maker's ass, it's effective, and neither of you are gonna forget that shit any time soon. You don't need to explain your decision-making process but I might ask you if you got something really out there, just saying. Unless you're like 'And don't fucking ask, Kaisa, you nosy motherfucker', in which case I will be like 'Alright man, that's totally cool'.

I'll start out: Mine is 'darkspawn', because I figure if I'm shouting that at any point, I probably want to be ending any current extra-circular activities, anyway. And probably find some pants.

Comments

[judgemewhole]

I am afraid I cannot give you one. No one has ever asked me to stop.

[Is Norrington's all too bland response to this. Because good Chantry boys never tell.]

[unbrokenoath]

Okay, but what if you need to tell someone to stop?

[judgemewhole]

Hm. Typically 'stop', but if I was to have a codeword I would go with 'blood magic' as that typically takes me out of any sort of mood.

[unbrokenoath]

Fair enough. Stop's perfectly valid, too, but picking out words is just...kind of fun, I suppose. It's like thinking up pet names. [ Pause. ] --That is, names for people that are cute.

Not. Animal names. I mean that's kinda similar too but. [ No it's not. ]

[judgemewhole]

[One corner of his mouth lifted up.] I was born outside of the Chantry, Warden Kaisa. I am aware of what 'pet names' are.

[unbrokenoath]

And I'm Fereldan, so, uh. You gotta clarify that shit, 'cause you got your pet names for your loved ones, and then you got your pet names for everyone who's not your dog. And it can get awkward getting things mixed up.

[judgemewhole]

I see ... would it not be simpler to have a different name than pet name then, if you are applying them to two different kids of people?

[unbrokenoath]

...I guess?

[ Do you want her to invent a new word or something Norrington. ]

[judgemewhole]

[You can't hear him shrug, but he is shrugging.]

It simply seems the next logical step. Unless of course the people you care about already know they are more important than the others.

[unbrokenoath]

I tell Puppy every day that I love him.

[judgemewhole]

...All right, I have to know. Is Puppy a person or a puppy?

[unbrokenoath]

He's a dog who thinks he's a puppy. I gave 'em a real name, and he chose to respond to Puppy instead. Who am I to argue with a dog?

[judgemewhole]

Dogs are notoriously hard to argue with, I must concur.