She's a Rifter. There are Rifters that come from places that do not have any elves at all, harbouring no shemlan hatred. And now this Rifter elf, what is she, romantic? Tattooed? Magic? These things my kind are not, do you think she harbours love of the elvhen?

If you believe so, then you will make this a Dalish matter. City-dwellers have lost nothing that can be found in your Rifter.