Whatever choice I make, it's going to be my choice for me. For what I can live with. I can't promise I'll explain it.

[If push comes to shove she would rather still make that choice herself, try to have some semblance of control over it. Both are a message, one is just a slightly better message and one where people can see she's not being forced.]

I might be home late? [Apologetic and soft as if that'll change that she's going to bury herself in work.]. Maybe leave it out on the table.